Wednesday 5 May 2010
Bad Behaviour
Bad Boy Appeal
Monday 3 May 2010
Contraception
From a staunch religious contraception is downright wrong. However, my opinion is that people should have the right to choose as to whether they want to have children or not. Not to mention the really important question of protection against STD's. Some of the rules imposed on society by religion is out of date and does not support the needs of modern society which has changed tremendously since the conception of religion. One example of the change in modern society is teenage pregancies which needs to be controlled in some way and contraception is one of those ways.
If more teenagers used contraception then the number of teenage pregnancies would go down. However, it appears that teenagers, even though contraception is available free of charge, let their hormones get the better of them and end up having sex without protection, which not only leads to pregnancy but also the possibility of get STD.
The following article in The Guardian online is about teenage pregnancy: http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2010/feb/24/teenage-pregnancy-rates-2008
Divorce
Is it right to divorce without really thinking it through? It appears that in Western society divorce is increasing at an alarming rate. Why so? Is it because people are now unwilling to stay in a relationship when they don't want to. I think it's because people, especially women, no longer need a man to look after them physically or financially and therefore, this has meant that women no longer need to stay married if the marriage isn't working out. This just may be one of the reasons. Another could be that these days we live in a global world with more choice and media also makes us feel that we can have it all. We are constantly reminded of what a "perfect relationship" is and therefore, gives us unrealistic and unachievable goals when it comes to marriage.
The following web page on the BBC gives people advice on divorce: http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/couples/heartaches_divorce.shtml
Cosmetic Surgery
Sunday 2 May 2010
Petty Theft (COMMENT ON ANOTHER POST)
You make some good points on this subject. Society has a tendency to judge harshly in such situations. I know some peole who have shoplifted (not saying it's right) but I wouldn't class them as "bad people" or criminals for that matter. However, that's not to say it's okay. Again I reiterate your thoughts that stealing without a valid reason is wrong but I think the reason why people like to judge all crimes harshly regardless of the severity of the crime is that if there wasa let out clause we would be in chaos.
Green with Envy
Bad Cinema (COMMENT ON ANOTHER POST)
I for one could not get my head round the film and had to leave half way through. I know some would argue that its a good way to highlight unprotected sex etc etc but I really don't need to see it. Things like what was shown in the film do happen but I don't think me seeing it so graphically in a movie with kids will make me a better and wiser person. It just shocked me and I now have images in my head which I wish I can get rid of.
Like you said I think the fact it was kids who were drinking, having sex, beating people - violent which was the most disturbing but even adults doing such think on tv is just as bad. It doesn't help anyone but make money for big movie moguls. The controversy only adds to it.
Lying (COMMENT ON ANOTHER POST)
I agree taht lying is something we do all the time without even realising it. However, I also agree that not all lies can be judged equally. Lying becomes a problem when people tell "big" lies unnecessarily which have the potential to hurt people immensely. And yes, I always say "I'm fine," when someone asks how I am - who doesn't.
Stalking
Nasty Comedians (COMMENT ON ANOTHER POST)
The problem with telling jokes is that sometimes people say what they really think but disguise it asa joke. I, like you, don't understand whats so funny about humilating and degrading people just to get a cheap laugh. It's not funny and anyone who doeds laugh at such jokes does it out of pure shock of the situation i.e. the Jonathan Ross incident.
It was right that they got reprimanded for such stupid behaviour. Comedy is funny when it is done with good taste but not when it means hurting people's feelings needlessly.
Infidelity (COMMENTING ON ANOTHER POST)
I agree that there isn't a justification for cheatin gon someone who you have committed to a relationship with. It is simple matter of choice; either stay faithful or get out. However, I also think that life isn't as black and white as we like to think. Although there are some people who are just selfish and greedy and want to have the cake and eat it. There are also some people who find themselves in a situation which ends up spiraling out of control for many reason. It's not always planned, however, when the time comes people have to make a choice even it will hurt the people closiest to them.
Rot of the West (COMMENT ON ANOTHER POST)
I echo your feelings. Some people in society prefer to sit back and accept things as they are rather than standing up for what they believe in. In doing so they only fuel the lies told to us by politicians and help keep them in power. As a country we have the right to vote, in comparison to some countries like Afganistan and Iraq, where we (Britain) as a country are trying to implement the right to vote. Yet many people in Britain choose to ignore the fact that we have the power to make things happen; to bring about change and decide not to do so because it's simply easier to sit back and claim that we accept lies from politicians because it's easier then listening to the truth.
Tattoos
Drinking
Thursday 22 April 2010
Drugs
Tuesday 20 April 2010
Telling Lies
Monday 19 April 2010
Infidelity
From John Terry, Tiger Woods and now Ashley Cole it seems that being unfaithful has become a national pass time for celebrities. In fact, having an affair somehome elevates the star power of celebrities thrusting them into the spotlight which they have never encountered before. Careers have been spurned from selling stories of infidelity e.g. Rebecca Loos. Who knew who Rebecca Loos was until her alleged affair with David Beckham.
However, being unfaithful isn't as black and white as society likes to portray it. There are many reasons why people are unfaithful. Yes, some people do it purely for sport but in some cases having an affair is the only way of getting some sembles of happiness in ones life. For instance, I know a few people who have been forced into marriage even thought they were already in a relationship beforehand. In such a case would you consider it wrong to continue seeing the person you were in a relationship with before your marriage. Some people in such situations find it easier to continue living with a sham marriage as described above then actually attempt to get out of it. Some don't even have any choice. Therefore, my opinion of what constitutes infidelity has changed as I have grown up and experienced the darker side of life. Not everything is black and white so I am more sympathetic then I used to be.
The truth is people are unfaithful for many reasons from not being happy in their relationship, boredom, loneliness, the thrill, risk taking or even domestic violence and much more. An article on Truth About Deception: Why Spouses Cheat talks about the deeper reasons people cheat on each other. The article suggests when it comes to love and betrayal, logic and reason has difficulty competing with human emotions. In short, infidelity, according to this article, occurs not because it is planned but because we are overcome by our emotions. www.truthaboutdeception.com/infidelity_and_cheating/public/why_do_spouses_cheat.html. In other words not everyone plans to have an affair but because something is lacking in their relationship a chance encounter with someone else may result it infidelity.
Thursday 15 April 2010
Incest
Why do some people commit incest? In some traditions marrying your first cousin is considered acceptable. It has been practiced freely amongst the British Royal family in order to ensure purity of the royal bloodline. In fact the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh (her husband) are also distant relatives.
A BBC article debates marriages between cousins and sheds some light on the complexity of the issue. BBC article: Your Views: Cousin Marriages http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/programmes/newsnight/4442646.stm)has some interesting arguments from people across the globe giving their opinion on marriages between cousins. It is clear from the article that not all people considered marriage between cousins incest even if it is banned in some societies.
I think the fundamental argument is that of consensual agreement between two parties. So long as two people are happy to marry and it is not forced then they should be allowed to do so. It is the question of force comes into it is when it becomes wrong.
My personal opinon is that sex between father, mother, daughter or son is wrong, however, my views on sex/marriage between cousins are more lenient. I don't think that the latter should be practiced frequently through generations and generations as the likelihood of producing a child with birth defects increases over generations, but if it is practiced now and then and it isn't forced then I think it is acceptable. There should be some level of freedom of choice in our lives and also some things like marriage between cousins cannot be controlled as it has been practiced over many years within some communities.